It’s spring and you know what that means: April showers, May flowers, and … you guessed it …being in love. This experience of being “in love” is usually associated with a giddiness that can put a skip in your step, propelling you right over those tulips and daffodils, even when it’s raining! Visions of Dick Van Dyke and Mary Poppins come to mind. But that’s not what I’m talking about.
One day I heard my young adult daughter, exasperated by some mundane incident, exclaim, “For the Love!” That was it. She didn’t add the usual ending and say, “For the love of God,” or for those who hold a Zeus-like conception of God and fear lightning bolts, the less offensive, “For the love of Pete!” Just “for the Love.” This gave me pause and got me wondering, “What if we lived this way…for the Love?”
What if we went about our day being in love, as opposed to being in anxiety, or in fear or in greed? What if our interactions were for the Love, instead of for the benefit of what we might get out of the exchange? As my musing continued, sacred text starting coming to mind. “There’s no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear because fear has to do with punishment.”*
Rather than berating ourselves or thrashing someone else out of reactive fear, we might just offer some tenderness to a situation. Another passage says, “Most of all, love each other as if your life depended on it. Love makes up for practically anything.”**
Could it be true that we might rise above petty offense and quickly forgive, rather than get mired in an inflated sense of personal justice, i.e., pissiness?
As the crocuses peek through the snow, and fragrant hyacinths delight my senses, I think I’m gonna let myself be in Love … just for the love of it!
*I John 4:18 (NIV)
**1 Peter 4:8 (Message)